You gotta grow the beans,
Pick them
Dry them
Roast them
Cool them properly
Grind them
Brew the coffee
Warm the cup
Add the milk
And then you realise you prefer tea.
It's a process!
This is one more piece of advice I have for you: don’t get impatient. Even if things are so tangled up you can’t do anything, don’t get desperate or blow a fuse and start yanking on one particular thread before it’s ready to come undone. You have to figure it’s going to be a long process and that you’ll work on things slowly, one at a time.