Don’t talk to yourself in such a way that if you did so to a friend, it would end your friendship. If you had a friend dealing with the same things, you wouldn’t berate that person, say, ‘You’re not working hard enough,’ ‘You suck,’ or ‘You’re not as good as [whomever].’ You’d offer your friend encouragement, you’d try to point out all the things your friend did right, and how much progress your friend had made.
You should do no less for yourself.
Be very careful how you talk to yourself. Because you are listening.

-- Pat Cadigan, author

Sometimes my insides feel all muddled up.

If you are ever feeling overwhelmed by stress, worry, anger or fear write down at least three situations or moments you consider to be positive. Emotions are as transient as pain; write down when you notice a feeling that feels positive to you and build up a storage space of memories of feeling good that you can call upon when there is a break in the weather...

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