Another recommended read from Brené Brown. This time
The Gifts of Imperfection.
She's
an authority on shame, empathy and authenticity (she's dedicated her life's work and research to these themes) and a brilliant storyteller!
It’s this mix of science and story that make
The Gifts of Imperfection an interesting, inspiring, and insightful read. Click below for a little taster and to hear Oprah's joy...moment 3:55 is my favorite : )
“Dr. Kristin Neff is a researcher and professor at the University of
Texas at Austin. She runs the Self-Compassion Research Lab, where she
studies how we develop and practice self-compassion. According to Neff,
self-compassion has three elements: self-kindness, common humanity, and
mindfulness. Here are abbreviated definitions for each of these:
Self-kindness: Being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we
suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or
flagellating ourselves with self-criticism. Common humanity: Common
humanity recognizes that suffering and feelings of personal inadequacy
are part of the shared human experience—something we all go through
rather than something that happens to “me” alone. Mindfulness: Taking a
balanced approach to negative emotions so that feelings are neither
suppressed nor exaggerated. We cannot ignore our pain and feel
compassion for it at the same time. Mindfulness requires that we not
“over-identify” with thoughts and feelings, so that we are caught up and
swept away by negativity.”
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Brené Brown,
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are